gender stereotypes in life...

got it fr my gender psyc textbook... really interesting... enjoy! =)

the imagery n metaphors used to describe fertilization in biological n medical textbooks extend n reinforce many gender stereotypes. a medical anthropologist noted tat female ova r often described as "passively awaiting" sperm. sperm r described as "purposefully moving" through the reproductive tract "actively seeking" their target, which they then "aggressively assault". sperm make a "perilous journey" to reach their prize. sperm r described as "making a decision" to penetrate the egg. ova r described as in danger of death if not rescued by a fertilising sperm. most of us carry the stereotypic image of a single sperm tat is somehow "stronger" or "fitter" than the others (darwinism strikes again!) n tat is therefore able to penetrate the surface of the egg. a more accurate image seems to be tat sperm cooperate so tat several spermatoza get closer to the surface of the egg. actually, the release of certain chemicals allow the ovum to actively pull a sperm onto n into itself. thus we see gender stereotypes applied even in descriptions of life on the cellular level, n the strength of those stereotypes distorts the accuracy of even scientific perception n description. (Martin, 1987)

being helpful...

well i guess parents haven't been teaching their kids the correct things... being helpful is being scorned for "wasting time", "wasting effort", "being kay-poh", "being stupid", etc... how contradicting it is tat schools have civic n moral education to teach us to be helpful to peers n pple around u while parents at home r reminding us to be selfish n think for urself...

i'm not trying to say being selfish is wrong but it jus makes the world an ugly place to live in... being in a competitive society, parents have been trying their best to inculcate survival skills to their kids... telling them muz be the best, take watever's the best, be kiasu, watch out for urself, blah blah blah... helping someone is something u shld try not to do... because the person may become better than u (in terms if u help him/her in sch work), or "u already so busy still so kay-poh help ur friend", or "u're so obedient to ur friend but not to ur parents"...

so helping is something u dun really see nowadays... coz we're too preoccupied with ourselves... we always want the best for ourselves n tend to neglect those around us... ok... let's say help does exist... but it doesn't come alone... it is tied to some kind of expectaion of the other party (e.g. "if i help u, wat gd do i get?") they always say : "nothing comes for free" u want help... u'll be expected to pay for it...

ok let's side track a bit... i'm not gonna mention who... but someone told me : 正义值多少钱？ another friend said: how much is integrity worth? well... i can't believe all this can be equated to money... even basic moral principles r worth nothing compared to money... i noe money is impt but they r not everything... but many pple have been succumbing to the temptation of fame n glory in the exchange of their moral principles... is it worth it? r we so pathetic? humans r supposed to be the most superior among all species... but yet we r displaying behaviour of the most primitive creatures...

so wat have ur parents taught u? wat have u learn fr the environment n experiences? everyone is guilty of making mistakes... let's make the world a better place... =)

another valentine's day...

another yr celebrating v day without a bf... so sian... then of coz celebrating another birthday without a bf... let's hope christmas will be different for me... sick of monotonous life... zzz...

心痛

望著你突然一阵心痛
一次又一次任那感情放纵
你的脆弱让我走不开
你的依赖所以我存在
想著你还是想到心痛
期待我做的将来你都会懂
有一天真如我有一天
但愿我还在你记忆中

遗憾...

first day of cny held feelings of joy n sadness... joy is of coz the obvious... cny is supposed to an occasion filled with gd food, gd money, new clothes, familiar faces... sadness is due to well... it was the day tat i knew him... but last yr... i mean it's not tat i could not get over him... but the date is jus too significant... tell me... who can't remember 大年初一...

well... i went to my aunt's place... the day jus pass by... we ate the super nice vegetarian dish (the same one every yr), lou hei, played with my nieces, eat new yr goodies, watch a bit of tv, then the adults played balck jack n mahjong... this is when my cousin, an older neice n i got bored... well every yr is the same... haha.. so we end up going to cine to watch ah long pte ltd... the show was quite funny, but not worth $10 though... n it's kinda disgusting tat the movie prices increase again... even though i always say "well increasing in price means the economy is improving n the standard of living is getting higher" (ok u all will say wat bullshit is this... =p)

then we went back to my aunt's place... to pick up the old folks aft their mahjong session... then went home... how boring can... so i decided to club... haha... really wanted to go dragonfly... to relive my memory... but my friend alwin says his friends at MOS... so no choice lor... i actually saw william scorpion at commenwealth station!!! damn cool la... chatted with him... n he's heading down to dragonfly to sing... well... too bad for me i din go down...

hmm... i guess somethings stays in us n we can't possibly forget... we may hid it well somewhere n lock it in the forgotten realms deep inside our supposedly endless mind... but it often lurks out n surface right before ur eyes... the more u surpress, the more it surfaces... sometimes maybe it is better for u to leave it to wonder around... sometimes it losts its way, sometimes it runs past u, sometimes it stays for a while... alright... happy cny to u...

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